I pulled out the drawer and one of the handles came out in my hand. I had just been reading about the tragic suicide of 12-year-old Mallory Grossman, and it had hit me hard.
Her parents, Dianne and Seth Grossman, said that their daughter died following months of bullying in-person and online from several classmates.
Prior to the bullying Mallory enjoyed gymnastics and cheerleading, made jewelry and sold it to raise money for summer camps for children with cancer and those who have lost someone to cancer. She had sisters and a brother and a loving family.
The family has said that several girls at the school were bullying Mallory, sending her unkind texts, saying she was ‘a loser’ and even suggesting ‘Why don’t you kill yourself?’
The parents say the bullying went on for months, and their concerns fell on deaf ears at the school. Mallory’s grades at school began to slip, and she complained of stomach aches and other illnesses to stay home from school.
The Grossmans reportedly went to school administrators multiple times to report the bullying but they claim nothing was ever done. The alleged bullies were never disciplined by the school.
Mallory became isolated, removed from classes, and forced to eat alone in the guidance counselor’s office to avoid possible harassment. In June 2017 she committed suicide in her home.
The day Mallory suicided, her parents had a three hour meeting with the school about the bullying by her classmates.
Her parents have now initiated legal action against the New Jersey school district to prevent other families going through similar heartbreak.
There is so much in this story that I could relate to and I felt such empathy for the experience of the family that I felt distressed. There are many echoes in Mallory’s experience that other bullied children and families of bullied children can understand.
Has your child ever been bullied? Have you ever felt frustrated by the response, or the lack of response from your school? Have you ever become concerned or worried about the impact of the bullying on your child?
Have you ever heard a school leader suggest that your child use a particular part of the playground or go to a particular place at lunchtime so that they can be safe at school? Have you ever had meetings with the school about bullying, and been frustrated at how ineffective they are?
We have, and many other families have. When I felt the drawer handle come off in my hand I looked down at my hand and thought to myself, “This has to stop, and all of us have a part to play in creating a world where young boys and girls don’t suicide in the face of school bullying.” Our blog, our website, and our programs are part of that action.
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